A narcissist is driven by supply. They shouldn’t get supply from you all the time, negative or positive. Know when to call it quits, know when to cut the ties, know when to let it go, and then act on it. For example, if you’re trying to negotiate with them and there is a meeting scheduled, and the narcissist goes crazy with blame shifting, talking about everything except the topic you’re negotiating, what do you do? You say, “I’m sorry, it seems right now you are not in the right state of mind. We will come back to this topic when you are more ready or in a better state of mind.” Leave it there, drop it, be declarative, and step back. Do not keep them satiated. Your presence is poison to them, but they love it—they love tormenting you, labeling you as crazy, all the things you are not but they themselves are.
So, step back, take your power back. Know when to shut it down, call it off, and remove yourself from the situation. They should know you are not willing to sit there and listen to that BS or just take that abuse. You will only give them supply if they comply or behave differently than they did the last time. Here, you are trying to condition them a little bit. The moment they behave nicely, give them a little more supply. Be transactional. Everything has to be transactional. For everything you give, you must take something back home. Think of it as gambling—you’re playing a risky game, so gauge the responses, test things. Do not set something rigid in your mind. Try things, see what works. If something works, keep using it. If not, stop it. Evolve yourself until you get what you want out of the situation and get out. Don’t ever look back.
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