You’ve chosen self-preservation, opting for the liberation that comes with prioritizing your own well-being, freedom, and happiness above the torment you’ve endured. It’s time, my friend, to embark on a transformative journey of healing and self-discovery. It’s astonishing how frequently narcissists act as if they never anticipated your departure. They appear genuinely taken aback when confronted with the reality that you’ve chosen to sever all ties and initiate no contact. It’s akin to changing the access code to your life, a necessary step for your own well-being. Once accomplished, when they realize you’re truly gone, many of them undergo a tumultuous emotional upheaval, cycling through stages of pain. Some become obsessively fixated on your absence.
Initially, they deny the gravity of the situation, believing it’s just another run-of-the-mill breakup. They downplay the significance of the moment, viewing it as a mere temporary setback. Denial is soon replaced by disbelief as the weight of the situation dawns on them and they comprehend that you’ve indeed departed. They grapple with the bewildering fact that you’ve actually done it, struggling to fathom your departure. Then the blame game begins, as they point accusatory fingers in your direction, alleging that you never truly loved or cared for them. Their fury intensifies, questioning how you could abandon them in such a manner, comparing your actions to those who’ve deserted them in the past, and unleashing their emotional pain.
Let’s illuminate a surprising reality here: for certain narcissists, even as they forge new connections, moving on doesn’t equate to extinguishing the emotions they once held for you. It’s a complexity that defies simplicity. Consider this: we’ve all embarked on new chapters in our lives yet found lingering sentiments for past partners. We’ve embraced fresh beginnings while reminiscing about former flames. Moments of yearning and nostalgia have crept in even amidst new bonds. This is the very reason some narcissists rush into new relationships—they seek refuge from unresolved emotions of the past. However, they’ve yet to confront and process these deeply buried feelings, casting a shadow over their new relationships, remembering the unfinished chapters of yesteryears.
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