They’re trying to get you into a position where you become more interested in them, so they can ignore and withdraw again and feel validated by making you uncomfortable, worried, and concerned. But what if the cycle repeats? What if you stand your ground when they ignore you and ignore them back? What if they pull away and you pull away even further? If the narcissist ever thought you were a good supply, you’re really getting them to obsess over you because it’s almost like you’re beating them at their own game. How can that be? They’re more clever than you; they’ve got more game than you. They have it, and you don’t. How can you be getting the better of them?
They can’t quite understand because they wouldn’t approach you in that way unless they were convinced you were the kind of person who would fall for them and need them more than they need you. But things aren’t unraveling the way they hoped and expected. So, if you mirror the narcissist and maybe take it up a notch and do it even more than they were to you, narcissists often find themselves ruminating, thinking, “What’s wrong with this person? Why aren’t they behaving the way I need them to behave?” Then they start getting angry and dreadfully obsessed with you, but at the same time, that makes them focus on you even more.
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