Narcissists sometimes end up getting more hooked on their supply than the supply does on them when the supply is good at mirroring their ways right back at them. When you do that to the narcissist, you often get them hooked on you because now they’re trying to work you out, trying to figure out their blind spot. How are you getting the better of them when they’re playing their game perfectly? Narcissists are super confident and think they’ll win when they approach something in a certain way. When they don’t, they struggle to understand what’s gone wrong. That’s why mirroring the narcissist, if you know how to do it, is one of the most powerful things.
Of course, you don’t want to play games or do anything for very long. When you do that, you probably just want to jump ship. But when the narcissist experiences that from someone they didn’t think much of or underestimated, it gets them into deep thought, wondering what’s up with you, why you’re not predictable, and why you’re not like most people. They might even wonder if you’re like them. But it’s interesting because when their supply doesn’t behave in predictable ways, that’s when narcissists often start getting hooked and obsessed with the idea of the supply. The supply is not predictable and is apparently much stronger than they had anticipated. That kind of thing can really get the narcissist wrapped up in thought, wondering if there’s anything they can do to flip the situation around. The more they think about it, the more they’re investing emotional energy into that person. Narcissists end up investing a lot of emotional energy into people who don’t play the script the way they need, and the people who get the better of them.
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