Narcissists don’t play by normal relationship rules. They play by whatever rules make the most sense to them, and these rules can change at a moment’s notice. Furthermore, most narcissists will have you believe wholeheartedly that they’re finished with you during their devastating discard performance. Yet, you can never seem to get closure because they always find a reason to come stomping back into your life.
Do Narcissists Come Back to Relationships?
In short, yes, most of the time. If you’re with a narcissist, you may already know this answer. You may know it all too well. You’ve probably experienced the chaotic whirlwind of the stop-and-go relationship. You also know what it’s like to feel confused about their intentions and motives. Let’s be real—they come back because they’re restless, or because they feel lonely, or because it’s Tuesday. They come back because someone else isn’t giving them the attention they believe they deserve or when they need to give the new supplier a good old silent treatment. They come back using whatever reason best suits them, and usually, they spin their reasoning into a way that tries to flatter and appeal to you. But it’s all smoke and mirrors.
Narcissists come back to relationships because they need people to feel validated. The moment they feel a lack of validation, they turn to extreme measures to restore that need. They need people to fill in as emotional punching bags. Therefore, if you keep giving them attention, they will keep coming back. It doesn’t matter if the attention is negative; in some ways, even negative attention can be flattering. It gives them more of an excuse to hang on to you.
What are the Signs?
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