Narcissists don’t want you to know they constantly need supply. They are never truly satisfied. Their souls often feel profoundly empty, and that’s why they abuse people to fill that bottomless void. The more you fill this supply, the more they will rely on you for their fix. However, don’t mistake this as meaning they have any sense of devotion or affection towards you. They instinctively understand that most other people won’t put up with their dysfunctional and abusive ways. Most narcissistic relationships rotate through a pattern of love bombing, devaluation, perceived discard, and hoovering. This pattern tends to persist for as long as people remain in a relationship with them.
Narcissists don’t know how to be finished with you. Of course, they won’t ever let you in on this secret. Instead, they’ll convince you that they never needed you in the first place. They’ll move on to the next relationship with ease. They’ll act as if you never existed, or they’ll smear you to your family and friends. But make no mistake—they need you far more than you ever needed them. Their inability to give or accept closure solidifies that reality. However, it’s important to understand that a narcissist needing you doesn’t imply any feelings of love or devotion on their part. They need you so they can unleash their deepest abuse on you. They can’t do that with many of the other people they know.
Even if the Narcissist is Finished
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