Then, unfortunately, what happens to the mother? She is left alone, totally isolated, with no relationship whatsoever with the daughter, and she’s left with nothing but grief. The example I gave you is the story of so many people, so many unfortunate parents that I have worked with. The same situation repeats itself in a different way. One parent, two parents, the child has been totally hijacked, overtaken by the narcissist. The child has gone no contact, and the only connection is the money. The narcissist is using the child, their partner, to get money, which is what we call abuse by proxy.
Then I tell them, and they ask me, “What do we do in this situation?” I say, “Unfortunately, you have nothing to do. You have nothing to lose anymore. You have lost everything when it comes to that relationship. It’s better to let go of those kids, of that connection, and cut off the money. They’re using you, and your daughter or son has to hit rock bottom to wake up and know what’s actually going on.”
So, we went into the depth and details of how a narcissist runs a massive foolproof propaganda using a big lie, the same technique used by Hitler, how he or she uses bits and pieces from all the information available to tie them together and create a narrative, and then tell the same lie again and again, again and again. He or she chooses to say or share half-truths and then ties their own narrative, whatever they’re suggesting others to believe, to say, “This is what’s going on,” and the reality is always the opposite of it.
How would you know? Do your research, go in deep, try to see what’s actually going on. Maybe there is more to it. Maybe there’s something that you do not know. Maybe there is an ulterior motive of this person. And if you are stuck with such a partner who is trying to isolate you from your loved ones, always question it. More so when your loved ones have been healthy. Yes, problems are everywhere in every family, but if it is a narcissistic situation, then that is an entirely different case. But if it was just a normal family where there were some problems, some issues, see how they are being reused and rehashed, and how that information is then put to use. That will give you the clue.
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