Narcissists are completely done with you forever after they do this. Have you ever wondered if a narcissist can truly care about anyone other than themselves? Perhaps it’s possible, but it’s certainly not in the way we typically understand care and love. When a narcissist has moved on from you, it will be apparent in how they treat the relationship and, inevitably, how they treat you. The intimacy that once existed between you will be gone, replaced with an unsettling void. The core problem that all narcissists struggle with is intimacy. The natural libido that we all experience as human beings has no place for them anymore. Instead, anger, resentment, and hate take over.
To someone who isn’t wrapped up in the narcissistic mindset, this may seem utterly strange. After all, we are wired to gravitate towards love, care, and affection to form healthy bonds with one another. But for narcissists, they thrive on taking advantage of others who still prioritize those loving and caring motives. That’s why the world is currently grappling with such an overwhelming occurrence of narcissism.
But how did the narcissist become that way? The answer lies in the terrible things that the narcissist experienced in their early childhood—likely trauma, abandonment, or emotional neglect. They adopted a cruel and vindictive personality as a tool to survive, leading to the twisted individuals we know today. It’s a deeply saddening situation.
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Have you ever noticed that a narcissist is trying to mimic you? In the beginning, they start by mirroring your actions and behaviors, pretending to show you love and affection. It’s unsettling because they could copy even your strangest habits. In a healthy relationship, people have their quirks and preferences that make them unique individuals, yet the narcissist seems like a copycat version of you. I even used to call my ex a mirror of me. However, this fake intimacy is short-lived, and eventually, they can’t keep up the pretense. When this happens, it should be a red flag that their true nature is emerging.
But why can’t a narcissist have a real, genuine connection with someone? Because the natural energy and strength people get from love and affection are replaced with hate and anger for the narcissist. As soon as the intimacy gets cut off, they lash out, feeling confident that they have hooked you. This is when the trauma bond becomes dangerous—you start questioning whether the narcissist ever really loved you. It all starts to feel like one big lie. However, if you can remember that this person was pretending all along and is incapable of reciprocating actual love, you’ll avoid getting stuck in a toxic cycle of seeking love from someone who can’t give it.
Once they’re done with you, the narcissist has already moved on to someone new or is already texting a few others on the side. It’s like they’re always on the hunt, always trying to get their fix. It’s a vicious cycle that doesn’t reflect how normal people seek love and connection in their lives.
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It’s easy to use extreme language and paint all narcissists as demons, but that kind of thinking is dismissive and unhelpful. When we do this, we’re no better than the narcissists themselves, who label us as bad people to justify their wrongdoings. It’s essential to have a nuanced understanding of the situation. It could be that we’re seeking love in unhealthy ways or exhibiting codependent tendencies. This isn’t to say that we’re necessarily bad people, but it’s important to take responsibility for our actions and work towards self-improvement.
One of the hardest realizations is that the intimacy we experienced with the narcissist was never genuine. It’s unsettling to think that we were living a lie, but we were too clouded by our love for them to see the red flags. It’s only through introspection that we can identify why we got stuck in these toxic relationships. By doing the work to better ourselves, we can move forward and pursue genuine connections with people who can reciprocate our love and affection.
It’s tempting to blame others for our problems, but ultimately, that’s not a healthy way to live. Instead, we need to take an honest look at ourselves and identify the areas where we can improve. Only then can we break free from the cycle of seeking out toxic relationships and start to live the life we deserve.
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In conclusion, navigating a relationship with a narcissist can be the most confusing experience. They often mirror us at the beginning, leading us to believe that they are everything we’ve been looking for. But eventually, their true colors emerge, and we’re left to deal with the aftermath of their emotional manipulation. It’s easy to blame the narcissist, but that kind of thinking is not helpful at all. By taking responsibility for our actions, seeking self-improvement, and understanding why we get caught up in these relationships, we can break the cycle and find genuine connections with people who can reciprocate our love and affection. Just notice when the seemingly beautiful love turns into hate and anger—the narcissist is almost done with you because, at this point, they may already have someone else. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. With support and self-reflection, you can overcome the trauma bond and start living the life you deserve. So let’s make today the day that we take one step closer to a more peaceful and fulfilling life. Until next time, let the healing begin.
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