It’s easy to use extreme language and paint all narcissists as demons, but that kind of thinking is dismissive and unhelpful. When we do this, we’re no better than the narcissists themselves, who label us as bad people to justify their wrongdoings. It’s essential to have a nuanced understanding of the situation. It could be that we’re seeking love in unhealthy ways or exhibiting codependent tendencies. This isn’t to say that we’re necessarily bad people, but it’s important to take responsibility for our actions and work towards self-improvement.
One of the hardest realizations is that the intimacy we experienced with the narcissist was never genuine. It’s unsettling to think that we were living a lie, but we were too clouded by our love for them to see the red flags. It’s only through introspection that we can identify why we got stuck in these toxic relationships. By doing the work to better ourselves, we can move forward and pursue genuine connections with people who can reciprocate our love and affection.
It’s tempting to blame others for our problems, but ultimately, that’s not a healthy way to live. Instead, we need to take an honest look at ourselves and identify the areas where we can improve. Only then can we break free from the cycle of seeking out toxic relationships and start to live the life we deserve.
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