In a narcissist’s mind, when a relationship ends, someone has to be at fault, and they are determined it won’t be them, even if it is. This is why narcissists slander their partners long before a relationship ends, so they can cover themselves. They’ve already crafted their story so that, when the relationship ends, no one will see them as the bad guy.
What’s particularly frustrating is when a narcissist stays in a relationship for decades, all the while ruthlessly slandering their partner. The people who believe the narcissist’s lies view them as saints, praising them for their patience in enduring such a “toxic” partner, child, or friend for so long. What’s certain is that, whether the narcissist is male or female, they always portray themselves as the victim in their relationships.
When a relationship ends with a narcissist, their only concern is appearing blameless. A failed relationship can never be their fault. They try to convince themselves and others that they were the ones who gave their all to the relationship, and it’s the other person who doesn’t value commitment or family. The narcissist will claim that the other person is “crazy” and “selfish,” while they remain “innocent.”
Narcissists tell lies to get into relationships, and they tell lies to get out of them. It’s ironic how they enter relationships as “saviors,” wanting to help, love, and cherish you, but then leave as the “victim.” This is why narcissists are not known to change their ways—they’re too busy pinning the blame on everyone else, instead of looking in the mirror and seeing themselves for what they really are.
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