In dealing with narcissists, one of the most frequent questions people ask is, “Why can’t I just call them out on their behavior?” It’s an understandable desire—after all, once you’ve identified the narcissistic traits, it can feel empowering. But the unfortunate truth is that calling out a narcissist almost never works the way you hope.
This article explores why confronting a narcissist is not only ineffective but also potentially harmful, and how you can protect yourself in a healthier, more strategic way.
The Alluring Temptation to Call Them Out
Once you’ve started to piece together the narcissist’s patterns of manipulation, lack of empathy, and constant need for validation, it’s natural to want to say, “I see you for who you are.” You’ve uncovered the truth, and just like any other discovery, you want to share it.
However, narcissism is not like finding a great new pizza place—you can’t share your revelation with the narcissist in hopes they will appreciate your insight. Instead, you’re likely to encounter fierce resistance, confusion, or even aggression.
Why Calling Them Out Doesn’t Work
1. They Won’t Listen
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