Habit number four: They compete through clothing. For a narcissist, clothing is not just about self-expression; it’s a tool for competition. They deliberately dress to overshadow those around them. Let’s say it’s your wedding day, and you’re dealing with your narcissistic mother, who is also a guest. You have your beautiful white gown ready, and it’s understandable that nobody would come to the wedding wearing the same kind of gown because it’s only for the bride. Then, your mother arrives wearing a similar or the same type of gown, leaving you shocked. Everyone goes, “What the hell? What’s wrong with her?” It’s inappropriate, and they do it on purpose. It’s a competition for them. How can you celebrate your wedding day without chaos? To regain her status and reestablish her importance, she puts on a dress that she knows will create chaos and conflict. But that’s what she likes; she wouldn’t care how traumatized you feel or how your wedding day would be destroyed. She’ll do it because it serves her ego. The same thing may happen on a daily basis with a narcissist. If you’re dealing with a female narcissist in any capacity, they’ll first notice what you select to wear, and the next thing you know, their closets will be filled with the same types of dresses and colors, stealing your choices. They are copycats who deliberately steal away your personality.
Number five: The last one is that they are extremely attached to designer labels. A grandiose type of narcissist needs to fill their wardrobe with designer labels and logos. It’s not just about staying updated or being fashionable; it’s about reclaiming superiority. That dress or brand is associated with being elite—among the most elite in society. Such a narcissist’s dressing style may be expensive, bold, or attention-grabbing, just to assert dominance. An example I would like to give you is of a school teacher who typically dresses casually—this is their preferred style—but all of a sudden, there’s a major personality shift. They start wearing formal clothes. There’s no need for this, but they do it, and their closet fills with different blazers, ties, and so on. Why? Because looking a certain way makes them feel powerful. When they put on that blazer, it makes them feel like the CEO, the principal, the authority. That is the delusional reality of a narcissist—something that has nothing to do with practical reality. In reality, they are just a teacher, nothing more, but they like to think otherwise. Another example is a female narcissist who puts on a gown and believes she’s some kind of queen. You can see it in their demeanor, their behavior, and their voice. It makes you think, “What’s wrong with this person? Why are they acting differently?” This behavior is also applicable to the places they sit; they will sit in a certain position, and it feels like some kind of demon has taken over. They talk arrogantly.
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