Narcissists assume you’ll be as bothered by their passive-aggressive tactics as they would be if the roles were reversed. And when you’re not phased—when you don’t react—they escalate. Narcissists are predictable. Once you recognize the pattern and understand that you’re caught in an abuse cycle, it’s important to accept that this toxic behavior isn’t going to change. If things seem to improve, it’s only temporary, as you’re being manipulated.
So, what happens when you ignore the narcissist entirely? Well, they hate it. Even if they try to hide it, ignoring them inspires deeply negative emotions. Why? Because narcissists are addicted to being seen as special. And nothing tells them they’re not special more clearly than being ignored. They also need to feel in control, and ignoring them demonstrates that they have no power over you. This is something they can’t stand.
People with a destructive narcissistic personality pattern lack personal power, no matter how things may seem on the surface. Exposing this lack of power is painful for them. Their sense of self-importance shatters when they realize they can’t control, dominate, or manipulate you. Ignoring them entirely may also trigger their deep-seated insecurities, fears, shame, and abandonment issues—especially in covert narcissists.
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