When you ignore them, all of their disowned insecurities will surface, and you may find yourself dealing with a narcissist throwing a full-blown emotional tantrum. In such moments, it’s vital to protect yourself and those who might be vulnerable.
Rejecting a narcissist is a huge blow to their fragile ego, no matter how well they mask it. Overt or covert, both types of narcissists are detached from their true selves. The slightest hint of rejection or abandonment triggers them, potentially resulting in narcissistic injury and rage.
More than anything, when you ignore a narcissist, you cut off their source of narcissistic supply—your attention and emotional reactions to their toxic behavior. When you starve them of this supply, they may become enraged and escalate their attempts to get your attention, often in abusive ways. They may also lash out at you through angry texts, voicemails, and insults. It’s crucial to not take this personally—they’re projecting their own flaws onto you.
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In conclusion, ignoring a narcissist is one of the most effective ways to sever ties with them permanently. But be prepared for their retaliation and attempts to reel you back in. They may guilt-trip, shame, flatter, love-bomb, or lie to get you to comply. Remember, they are experts at twisting narratives to serve their purposes.
Stay strong, stay safe, and remember: words are easy. Pay attention to behavior, not words, and stop falling for manipulative tactics when the two don’t match. You deserve better. Ignoring the narcissist entirely will eventually force them to find another source of narcissistic supply, leaving you in peace—and that, my friend, is a beautiful thing.
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