If you want to know who a narcissist is beneath all the facade and masks they wear, observe their facial expressions. Through these micro-expressions, they reveal a lot of grandiosity, entitlement, egocentrism, sadism, and a true lack of empathy. Narcissists often make very strange facial expressions, and when you observe these in combination with their actions, you’ll begin to understand what you’re dealing with.
Facial Expression #1: An eye roll followed by a deep sigh.
Whenever you say something important, a narcissist might roll their eyes and follow it with a deep sigh, which essentially communicates, “I’m done with you. Just shut up already.” To them, your words are nonsense, and they mock you with this facial expression, belittling your feelings and making you feel insignificant. However, keep in mind that a victim can also roll their eyes out of frustration during endless, nonsensical conversations with a narcissist. That’s why context and intent matter.
Facial Expression #2: The dead stare.
When you express your emotions, a narcissist may give you a cold, unblinking stare, as if they are calculating how to use your vulnerability against you. This stare reveals a lack of empathy and their intent to manipulate you. Some describe their eyes as widening, with pupils dilating slightly, though this can vary. It’s a predatory look, not the gaze of someone listening with care.
Facial Expression #3: Avoiding eye contact when you pour your heart out.
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When you’re vulnerable and express your emotions, a narcissist may avoid eye contact, looking over your shoulder or writing on a piece of paper. This isn’t due to distraction—they are deliberately trying to invalidate your feelings. Be cautious though; some people with conditions like autism or ADHD may also avoid eye contact, but for different reasons. Always consider the context.
Facial Expression #4: The fake laugh that quickly fades.
Narcissists often exhibit exaggerated laughter that vanishes within seconds, quickly replaced by a serious or emotionless expression. This stark contrast between facial expressions indicates a lack of genuine emotion. They follow a script but struggle to maintain their false facade for long.
Facial Expression #5: The pitiful smile.
This smile, often seen in vulnerable narcissists, conveys, “I’m happy for you, but I’m the real victim.” They thrive on their victimhood and use this smile to manipulate others, signaling that they deserve the recognition or success that you’ve achieved.
Facial Expression #6: The head shake.
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When you’re doing something that makes you happy, a narcissist may shake their head, silently disapproving or invalidating your efforts. This dismissive gesture suggests that they see you as foolish or a failure, even if they don’t directly say it.
Facial Expression #7: The cold, callous expression with an evil laugh.
This final expression is a blend of malice and cruelty, often accompanied by a laugh that underscores their intent to hurt you. It’s their way of showing that they view you as competition or an enemy to be destroyed. Their eyes may appear cold, dead, and soulless during this moment, revealing their true lack of empathy.
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