I’ve worked with many survivors who experience major panic attacks when trying to re-enter the world. One person I worked with couldn’t leave their home for months. When they finally attempted to drive, they had a massive panic attack. With consistent support, they eventually regained confidence.
In agoraphobia linked to narcissistic abuse, it’s not just a fear of being out in public; it’s a fear of being triggered. Familiar places, people, or even scents can bring back memories, causing anxiety or confusion. Positive flashbacks—memories of seemingly good times with the narcissist—can also cause rumination and self-doubt, which complicates healing.
Avoiding these triggers may provide temporary relief but doesn’t resolve the trauma. Instead, gradual exposure, while staying calm and grounded, can help integrate the trauma and heal. Techniques like tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) and havening (gently rubbing the arms to create calming delta waves in the brain) are powerful tools for self-regulation during exposure to triggers.
Take things slowly and work at your own pace, but remember: healing from trauma requires facing it. Compassion, patience, and consistent practice will help you move forward.
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