It’s natural to want to help a parent, especially if you’re a caring person. However, it’s important to remember that your mother’s personality is not a problem you can solve, nor is it your responsibility to do so. She may have deep-seated issues or trauma from her own past, but that does not obligate you to fix her. Accepting that you can’t change her into a completely different person is essential for your own peace of mind.
8. Don’t Expect an Apology
It’s common to hope that one day, your mother will realize her mistakes and apologize. However, narcissists often find it difficult to admit they are wrong, let alone apologize. Instead of waiting for an apology, understand that she may never offer one. She might justify her actions or shift the blame, but it’s essential to recognize that this doesn’t reflect on you. You are not at fault, and you don’t need her validation.
9. Avoid Comparisons
Comparing your mother to other parents or wishing she could be like them only intensifies feelings of resentment and sadness. While it’s painful to see how others may have healthier family dynamics, focusing on the positives of your own situation, however small, can be empowering. Try to make the most of what you have without letting comparisons diminish your peace.
10. Prioritize Your Happiness
If your health and happiness are your priorities, make choices that support these goals. Narcissistic mothers often try to make themselves the center of everything, but you don’t have to let her needs override yours. You have every right to prioritize what feels right for you, even if she doesn’t understand or approve. Narcissistic individuals may feel superior to others, but it’s essential to focus on what makes you happy rather than trying to meet her expectations.
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