In this vein, some recommend strategic “influence” where a narcissist is particularly destructive, rather than any form of manipulation. One can most certainly set firm boundaries and, when provocations arise, respond equanimously. “Gray rocking”-or responding with a minimum of emotion-is one technique for minimizing the narcissist’s control without resorting to active manipulationPSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Conclusion
It is possible to manipulate a narcissist, working with the need for admiration, insecurity, and tendency toward self-importance; however, it would take a great deal of thought and a high tolerance for possible backlash. When in close relationships, focusing on assertive communication with a narcissist, setting boundaries, and maintenance of self-care are far easier to maintain than trying to “beat them at their own game.
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