Another common tactic is a sudden lack of eye contact. Perhaps, at one point, they would turn to look at you, listen closely, or respond with focus. But now, when you’re talking, they deliberately avoid looking at you, making you feel invisible. This subtle tactic sends the message that they’re no longer interested in you or that your presence doesn’t warrant their attention. Avoiding eye contact can feel minor, but it can be an intense psychological tactic that makes you feel ignored and dismissed, which is exactly the goal.
3. Silent Treatment
Silence is another manipulative tool in the narcissist’s kit. When you’re being given the silent treatment, you’re left questioning yourself and what you did wrong. Narcissists often withdraw communication as a way of punishing you for a perceived “offense” or as a method of control. They ignore you to make you feel guilty, needy, or at fault. Even if you attempt to engage, responses will likely be cold, dismissive, or one-worded. This tactic leaves you feeling isolated and destabilized, which is exactly where the narcissist wants you to be, dependent on their approval to feel good again.
4. Short, Dismissive Replies
Even when they choose to respond, narcissists may do so dismissively, with one-word answers, vague responses, or in an indifferent tone. For example, you might send a detailed message, and they reply with “K,” or “Sure,” leaving you feeling dismissed and undervalued. This tactic serves to remind you that they are in control and can give or withhold attention as they please. When you bring it up, they may again blame their behavior on being tired or busy, flipping the situation back on you by accusing you of being overly sensitive.
5. Acting as Though They Didn’t Hear You
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