If a narcissist can’t get you back, they might switch tactics. Some use the silent treatment, making you feel ignored, unimportant, or even invisible in an attempt to reverse the power dynamic. Others may take it a step further and begin a smear campaign, trying to damage your reputation among mutual contacts to regain a sense of superiority and control.
The Underlying Fear
Beneath all of these reactions—whether rage, manipulation, or a smear campaign—is a fundamental fear of rejection and abandonment. They act out because they don’t know how to cope with these feelings. Re-establishing contact with you temporarily alleviates their fear of abandonment, but it’s not about genuine reconciliation. Instead, it’s about quelling their fear by controlling you again.
Moving Forward
So, if you’re questioning whether you should reconnect or rekindle things, ask yourself: is this relationship fulfilling and respectful, or is it just an emotional trap? Keep in mind that narcissists rarely change, as they are unwilling to confront their own behaviors. Moving forward is about protecting your emotional health and letting go of toxic influences.
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