When I asked the kind-hearted brother in this story if the people he lost were important to him, he replied yes. I suggested he reach out to them and reconnect on a personal level. I advised him not to defend himself, explain everything, or label his brother as a narcissist. I reassured him that his loved ones already cared for him, so he should simply be himself around them. Because of what his brother said, they had been deceived.
He followed my advice and reached out to them. As he began conversing with them, it was fascinating to see how their perceptions of him began to change as they learned what a special and kind person he truly was. They were a little confused, which was understandable. He admitted there had been some inappropriate discussions in their family and apologized if anything hurtful had been said.
Open Communication
With this approach, he was able to reconnect with most of the people who had distanced themselves from him, winning back their trust and faith. I truly empathize with what you went through, and I can understand how painful it must have been to witness people you considered friends and family gradually change their opinions based on the narcissist’s influence. Some individuals who liked you before the conflict were able to quickly move past it. Those who did not change their minds and chose to believe the lies told by your narcissistic brother were even more damaging to you.
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