When you take these things away, it leaves a void that they can’t ignore. Think about when you rely on someone for something, and they suddenly stop providing it. It leaves a gap. By going no contact and withholding your attention, they will feel the loss and may even try to reach out, possibly through mutual contacts.
The moment you stop caring and take your energy back is the moment the power dynamic shifts. They’ll desire your attention because they can’t have it. Just as a friend might seek your attention after you’ve pulled away, narcissists are particularly prone to craving what they can’t have—it becomes a challenge they obsess over.
To truly make a narcissist regret what they did, cut off communication. Focus on yourself. Redirect your energy and become a different person. As you start to grow, the narcissist will notice because they are sensitive to changes in energetic exchange. They’ll see something has changed in you, something they desire, but by then, you won’t need or want them anymore.
This journey of no contact is about you, not them. Forgive yourself and understand that closure comes from within. The relationship was likely unsustainable from the start; it was only a matter of time before it ended. Rather than trying to teach them a lesson, focus on what you can provide for yourself.
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