Some survivors of narcissistic abuse develop a habit of nervously repeating phrases, often to reassure themselves they’re saying the right thing. This may be because they’ve been in situations where their words were twisted or used against them. Therapist Dr. Les Carter notes that narcissistic abuse frequently leaves survivors second-guessing themselves as a way to regain control over their communication and feel safe. So if you notice someone doing this, understand that it’s not just a quirk—it’s part of their journey toward rebuilding confidence.
4. Speaking Very Quickly
Survivors of narcissistic abuse tend to speak quickly, almost as if they’re racing against the clock. This often happens because they fear being cut off or ignored. Psychologist Dr. Gabor Maté explains that trauma can create a heightened sense of urgency, making you feel compelled to rush your words. Remember, it’s okay to slow down and take your time—your voice deserves to be heard.
5. Avoiding Taking Up Space
If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, you might find yourself avoiding taking up space—like sitting in corners or making yourself small. This behavior often stems from feelings of unworthiness, which can become deeply ingrained after years of being belittled or dismissed. Dr. Brené Brown discusses how shame can make us feel as though we don’t deserve to be seen. Keep in mind that you have every right to be present, take up space, and acknowledge your own worth.
6. Checking Their Phone Excessively
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