I understand—they treated you badly, you’re upset, and they deserve the consequences. The one thing you want is for them to feel sorry for what they did. In this video, I’m going to show you how you can make that happen.
In today’s article, we’re going to talk about how to make a narcissist feel sorry for what they’ve done—what they’ve put you through, and the experiences you endured that you never wanted. The first thing I’ll say is that the narcissist doesn’t care. They don’t care about what they’ve done or how it’s made you feel. Why? Because as long as their needs are met, that’s all that matters to them. It’s about them, not you. They just want to know they’re okay, their needs are met, and they’re doing what they need to do.
So, how do you make a narcissist suffer, think about you, or feel sorry? It’s all about “no contact.” In this video, I’ll discuss why no contact is such a powerful tool. When you remove all communication, attention, and focus—all your energy—from the narcissist, they’ll feel it, and they won’t like it. Narcissists thrive on these things because they’re essential to getting their needs met by people like you. If you’re directing your energy, attention, kindness, and goodness toward them, they feel validated. They benefit from that. If you’re a high-value individual—someone who’s compassionate, kind, and patient—the narcissist sees that as valuable because they can manipulate those qualities to meet their needs.
There’s no point in confronting them, talking to them, or trying to get closure. The reason it happened is that you’re no longer providing that value, and they get bored. They don’t like it and start looking for other people to give them that attention, validation, focus, and energy—essentially, the “life force” I’m talking about. When you take that away, they can’t stand it. Think about a time when you relied on someone, and that person withdrew something vital. It leaves a void and makes you wonder why it happened, and you end up wanting it even more. When you go no contact and take away communication, validation, energy, and focus from the narcissist, they feel it and crave it even more. They may even reach out to you, perhaps through others, to regain that lost attention.
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The moment you stop caring and shift your energy away from them, the energy dynamic changes, and they’ll desire it because they can’t have it anymore. It’s similar to a friend who craves your attention and advice, but once you remove that attention, they want it more. This dynamic is part of human nature—we often desire things we can’t have. Narcissists are especially drawn to what they can’t have because it poses a challenge, grabbing their attention, and they’ll invest all their energy in trying to reclaim what’s out of reach.
If you want a narcissist to feel sorry, it’s about no contact. Remove your attention, energy, and focus from them and instead direct it toward yourself. When you prioritize yourself, you change. You vibrate on a different level, which the narcissist will notice. They’ll want what you have, but by then, you won’t need them. You’ll have already realized that making someone pay or trying to make them understand they’ve wronged you isn’t the point. They did wrong you, but forgiveness is for yourself. Closure is something you give yourself. Understand that it was never about you behaving differently—the outcome was inevitable, and the relationship was always going to end, now or later, because a narcissist can’t sustain a relationship.
There’s no point in teaching them a lesson. Even if they want to communicate or offer you something, ask yourself: what can they give you that you can’t provide for yourself? They’ve already lost in life, repeating the same patterns for the same results. People are interchangeable to them, and there’s no depth in their relationships, which they can’t sustain. They don’t care deeply or introspect about what they’ve done; it’s not about making things right. It’s about you. The narcissist mirrors you, and when you remove something, they crave it even more.
So, start building yourself up. Focus on your self-growth, financial freedom, fulfilling career, and self-care. Invest time in meditation, reflection, and creating space for yourself. Communicate your self-worth through your behavior rather than words—it’s much more powerful.
I hope this video helps you understand that this journey is about you. Stop wasting your time and energy on something that no longer serves you. Instead, focus on what you can do for yourself because you’re the most important person here.
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