The moment you stop caring and shift your energy away from them, the energy dynamic changes, and they’ll desire it because they can’t have it anymore. It’s similar to a friend who craves your attention and advice, but once you remove that attention, they want it more. This dynamic is part of human nature—we often desire things we can’t have. Narcissists are especially drawn to what they can’t have because it poses a challenge, grabbing their attention, and they’ll invest all their energy in trying to reclaim what’s out of reach.
If you want a narcissist to feel sorry, it’s about no contact. Remove your attention, energy, and focus from them and instead direct it toward yourself. When you prioritize yourself, you change. You vibrate on a different level, which the narcissist will notice. They’ll want what you have, but by then, you won’t need them. You’ll have already realized that making someone pay or trying to make them understand they’ve wronged you isn’t the point. They did wrong you, but forgiveness is for yourself. Closure is something you give yourself. Understand that it was never about you behaving differently—the outcome was inevitable, and the relationship was always going to end, now or later, because a narcissist can’t sustain a relationship.
There’s no point in teaching them a lesson. Even if they want to communicate or offer you something, ask yourself: what can they give you that you can’t provide for yourself? They’ve already lost in life, repeating the same patterns for the same results. People are interchangeable to them, and there’s no depth in their relationships, which they can’t sustain. They don’t care deeply or introspect about what they’ve done; it’s not about making things right. It’s about you. The narcissist mirrors you, and when you remove something, they crave it even more.
So, start building yourself up. Focus on your self-growth, financial freedom, fulfilling career, and self-care. Invest time in meditation, reflection, and creating space for yourself. Communicate your self-worth through your behavior rather than words—it’s much more powerful.
I hope this video helps you understand that this journey is about you. Stop wasting your time and energy on something that no longer serves you. Instead, focus on what you can do for yourself because you’re the most important person here.
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