Fear #3: Loss of Sexual Appeal
This fear is especially pronounced in somatic narcissists, who are fixated on their physical appearance. They obsess over diets, exercise, and procedures to maintain their youth. But age is inevitable, and they cannot accept it.
This is why older narcissists might pursue relationships with much younger partners, hoping to feel young by association. For example, an older male narcissist may date younger women, or a female narcissist may dress provocatively to attract attention. They fear losing sexual appeal, viewing it as a loss of control over their image.
Fear #4: Being Seen Through
Being seen through is different from being exposed. While exposing a narcissist involves telling others about their behavior, seeing through them means understanding who they really are. They fear that certain people—particularly those who are emotionally aware and strong—can see past their masks.
When they encounter someone who can see through them, narcissists become anxious and avoid eye contact, quick to run away or turn others against the person who saw through them. This fear of being authentically seen is like being trapped with no escape, and it can make them panic.
Fear #5: Indifference
Lastly, narcissists fear indifference. This is different from being ignored. When you ignore a narcissist, they know you’re holding back your emotions. But true indifference is when you no longer care; it’s as if they’re dead to you.
When you’re genuinely indifferent, their existence loses meaning. They have no true personality—only the identity others give them. Narcissists might try to provoke reactions, accuse you of changing, or even fake emergencies, but ultimately, they are left alone with the realization that they’re no longer significant to you.
Conclusion
That concludes today’s episode. I hope you found it insightful. If you did, let me know in the comments. I’ll see you in the next one, and as always, let the healing begin and continue.
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