Number four, you are going to usecounter mirroring to appeal to thesubconscious part of the narcissist brain.After all, they’re human beings,they’re going to get influencedby your behaviors as well.When they mirror you, what is the outcome?What is the end goal of that mirroring?To create a fake sense of rapport,to impress you, to get your approval,or to make you fall for them.is, your goal is to make it lessstressful to deal with them.So what do you do?You go in and sit intheir, in their direction.You move your body slowlyas they move theirs.You attune.Let’s say they put theirhand under their face.You do the same thing,but the opposite hand.Do not make it too obviousbecause If they catch you doingit, they’ll get really angry.They’ll think you’re shaming them.You’re mocking them.You’re belittling them.It’s not just about body language.It’s about, you know, putting them on apedestal through giving somatic approval.Just making it seem like you’relearning how to sit, how to behave,how to walk, how to talk from them.They are teaching you.That’s how to, how you have to act.And you have to have thatinsecure look on your face.As if you are this little two yearold looking up to this eight year old,expedient man or woman who is the king orthe queen and knows the best and you’rejust trying to accommodate yourself.You also have to demonstrate whatis called intellectual mirroring.It’s a special form of mirroring.conscious fawning.Let’s say the narcissist thatyou’re dealing with is talkingabout some rubbish thing, sometopic that you’re not interested in.Cricket, let’s say, football,or some other stuff.You do not want to talk about it, butyou’re not going to make it obvious.You are going to expand on their pointand say, Oh yeah, that’s the case.That’s what I have observed as well.You have to become a partof their shared fantasy.Their fantasy is basedon delusional constructs.There is no truth to any of them.You know it, but you don’thave to tell them that.Your goal is to get what you want.You only go in therewith an outcome in mind.You just don’t mindlessly playthis game because what’s the point?You’re going to exhaust yourself.So when you go in there,you need to have a reason.Why am I consciously fawning?Why am I mirroring their intellect?Why am I agreeing with their worldview?Because I want them to sayyes to something, I will bepresenting as a request later.That is what you should focus on.
Chapter 5: Creating an Illusion of Control
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