Narcissists can temporarily change their behavior when it benefits them. Why would they do this if they didn’t know their behavior was harmful? Unlike someone with schizophrenia or psychosis—where behaviors are involuntary and consistent—narcissists are selective.
For example, if they fear losing you, they can act nicely for a while to keep you engaged. They understand that if they push you too far, you might abandon them, which is not what they want. They can demonstrate good behavior when necessary but choose not to most of the time. This deliberate choice reveals their awareness.
From recent interactions, I’ve learned that narcissists fear exposing their true selves because they know it won’t be accepted. They manipulate others by giving just enough hope to maintain control and revert to their harmful behaviors once they feel secure in the relationship.
Proof #3: They See Reciprocity as an Insult
Narcissists justify their abusive behavior, believing their victims deserve it. However, if you treat them the same way, they see it as a grave insult. They can insult, neglect, or abandon you without remorse, but if you mirror their actions, they perceive it as a personal attack.
For instance, if you use the same tone or language they use, they’ll explode with rage, accusing you of being disrespectful. Their inability to handle being treated poorly underscores their awareness that their own behavior is unacceptable. They know it’s wrong because they can’t tolerate receiving the same treatment.
Proof #4: The Smirk of Satisfaction
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