They might say things like:
- “I love the way you naturally look; why do you need to doll up?”
- “Why be so artificial or fake?”
- “Are you chasing celebrities? You’re not like them.”
While these comments might seem like compliments, they are manipulative. A narcissist doesn’t truly mean them. The same person who claims to love your “natural look” will later criticize your weight, wrinkles, or any perceived flaws.
By planting these ideas, they make you question your decisions: “Will my partner hate me if I wear lipstick?” or “Am I shallow for wanting to look good?” This creates cognitive dissonance, as you feel emotional pressure without direct commands.
2. Questioning Your Loyalty
Another common tactic is to question your intentions, saying things like:
- “Who are you wearing that makeup for?”
- “Why this dress? Whose attention are you trying to get?”
- “Why do you need those shoes?”
These accusations imply that your efforts to look good are rooted in disloyalty. The truth, however, is that they are projecting their insecurities and intentions onto you. Their goal is to make you feel ashamed, forcing you to give up your choices and conform to their preferences.
3. Controlling Your Wardrobe
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