7. Nervous Habits
You may notice survivors engaging in nervous habits like fidgeting, tapping, or playing with their hair during conversations. These behaviors help them manage underlying anxiety or stress. Dr. Laura Paa notes that such habits often serve as subconscious coping mechanisms for unresolved trauma. Their fidgeting isn’t a sign of disinterest but a way to soothe emotional discomfort.
8. Unusual Jealousy
Survivors might exhibit jealousy over seemingly harmless situations, like you spending time with other friends. This intense jealousy often stems from insecurities formed during abusive experiences. Psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff explains that feelings of worthlessness can lead to heightened sensitivity. If they react strongly, understand it’s a reflection of their past, not your actions.
9. Difficulty Engaging with New People
Survivors may hesitate to engage with new people or join group activities. This reluctance often stems from a fear of judgment or rejection. Dr. Judith Herman points out that survivors struggle with trust, making social situations overwhelming. Their guarded nature reflects their vulnerability, not a lack of interest in connecting.
10. Easily Triggered
Survivors may get triggered by certain words or actions that remind them of their past trauma. Trauma expert Dr. Bessel van der Kolk explains that trauma reshapes the brain, causing heightened reactions to reminders of pain. If they seem upset over something minor, recognize that it’s tied to their history.
Conclusion
Understanding the social behaviors of those affected by narcissistic abuse fosters compassion and support. What may seem odd on the surface often has deep roots in trauma. Being patient and empathetic creates a safe space for healing. If you notice someone reacting differently in social situations, take a moment to consider their journey. Together, we can break the stigma and encourage healing for those who’ve endured narcissistic abuse.
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