How do you handle it when a narcissist feels entitled to hit you with a cheap shot, passive-aggressive dig, or outright insult? It’s easy to say, “Don’t take it personally”—because it isn’t actually personal. But let’s be real: narcissists go for the jugular. Worse, they do it with a smug look on their face, enjoying the impact their toxicity has if and when it lands. Needless to say, not taking it personally is much easier said than done.
Of course, ignoring their behavior and taking the high road while creating distance between you and the toxic individual is always the best option. But if you can’t do that immediately, what then? Here are a few ways to make a narcissist instantly regret insulting you:
1. Maintain Eye Contact and Don’t Flinch
When you suspect someone is taking a cheap shot at you, pay attention. Let them know you’re paying attention by maintaining eye contact. Here’s the thing: bullies are often cowards at heart. This technique alone can be enough to make them backpedal or back off entirely.
However, don’t jump to conclusions. Take a moment to assess the other person’s intent. If you’re caught off guard and unsure of what just happened—especially if you don’t know the person well—consider giving them the benefit of the doubt initially. Maybe they’re socially awkward, and their anxiety is manifesting in an odd way. If that’s the case, show compassion and move on.
2. Assess Intent and Respond Accordingly
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