Whatever you do, remain composed and unaffected on the outside, even if you’re rattled internally. Do not engage, defend yourself, or attempt to refute the insult—it’s exactly what the narcissist wants. Remember: staying calm and underreacting takes you out of the game they’re trying to play.
5. Leave or Ask Them to Leave
If the situation escalates, remove yourself or ask them to leave. No one has the right to hold you hostage in a toxic environment. Calmly but firmly tell them to leave your space if necessary.
A Personal Example
I once had a guest at my dinner table—a man my husband mistakenly invited—who made incredibly offensive comments about my home province. Calmly, I said, “You can leave now.” When he hesitated, I added, “You can use the front door or the back door. Your choice.” He left in such a hurry he could barely get his boots on.
6. Differentiate Between Friendly Teasing and Insults
Friendly banter among close friends is different. In those cases, you can laugh along. But when the remarks are clearly meant to harm or undermine, it’s time to assert your boundaries.
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