It’s important to understand that narcissists like to feel in control of their environment and are constantly on the lookout for signs of potential problems. They are extremely controlling and afraid of any change. To maintain control, they often avoid conflict by blaming others for their mistakes.
The fear of being exposed is the primary motivation for narcissists to be abusive and manipulative. They try to keep their victims in a state of high alert while creating an illusion of success through their manipulation tactics. However, once you recognize these patterns, making a narcissist fear you becomes easier.
By identifying these signs, you can adjust your responses to improve the quality of your interactions and elevate your communication skills. This often increases the narcissist’s anxiety, making them feel more unsettled.
Narcissists experience anxiety as a constant, vague feeling within their mind and body. They are plagued by paranoia, fearing that everything they’ve built could collapse. This anxiety may manifest in their conversations, where they talk about doom or try to make others feel anxious. Other narcissists hide their anxiety by denying their feelings altogether.
In short, narcissists live in constant fear, much of which is hidden or deeply buried. Let’s explore the four things that make narcissists feel anxious and miserable:
1. Narcissists See You as a Threat
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Narcissists hide many things deep within themselves and never want their secrets to be discovered. It’s common for them to view everyone else as a threat. They are highly paranoid and constantly afraid that their carefully constructed persona will be exposed as fake.
To protect themselves, they remain on high alert and strive to control their environment. Their lives revolve around competition, and they feel as though everyone is watching and waiting to uncover their secrets.
Beneath their charismatic facade lies deep distrust and insecurity. Narcissists often project their fears onto others, believing everyone is as vulnerable as they are. In their minds, relationships become a game of survival where they must strike first, deceive, or manipulate to maintain the upper hand.
2. Narcissists Fear Rejection and Abandonment
Rejection and abandonment are the two greatest fears of a narcissist. Rejection, in particular, is dangerous because it can make them feel devalued and attacked.
Narcissists struggle to understand why someone might leave them. They fear that rejection could expose their hidden flaws. To avoid this, they attempt to exploit others emotionally, claiming that they are essential to their partners’ dreams.
They will go to great lengths to avoid the idea of rejection or abandonment, using manipulation to maintain control over relationships.
3. Narcissists Fear Being Exposed
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Narcissists constantly lie to hide their insecurities and will do whatever it takes to maintain this facade. They manipulate people and situations to prevent anyone from discovering the truth about their vulnerabilities.
The possibility of exposure terrifies them because it threatens their carefully constructed image.
4. Narcissists Fear Losing Control
When dealing with a narcissist, you might notice that they often display anxiety. This anxiety stems from a fear of losing control over their relationships and environment.
They may accuse others of being negative, unsupportive, or selfish to deflect their own anxieties. The more anxious they feel, the more resentful they become toward others. Narcissists will do whatever is necessary to maintain control and avoid being exposed.
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