Narcissists are strategic in pursuing “Grade A Supply.” They notice, compliment, and admire you for a reason. Their actions are calculated to ensure you stay connected, even during periods of separation. You may feel like you’re still with the narcissist, even when they’re absent, because they’ve conditioned you to think about them, seek their approval, and doubt yourself.
This manipulation is powerful. They use scenarios to keep you emotionally hooked. After devaluation and discard, they often pursue new supply but will circle back to you once their interest in the new supply fades. This cycle continues because they see you as valuable to their ego and emotional needs.
Recognizing the Game
It’s important to recognize that narcissists cannot form deep, meaningful connections like healthy individuals. They value what you bring to their life—your energy, generosity, and emotional strength—not you as a person. This explains why they may Hoover (attempt to re-engage) after months or even years of separation.
Their goal is control, not love. They keep you psychologically tied to maintain dominance over your emotions and life.
Breaking Free
To heal, you must realize the narcissist needs you more than you need them. Why return to someone who devalues and manipulates you? Their methods are designed to confuse and keep you emotionally attached.
Narcissists rarely offer closure. They exploit your hope, keeping you in emotional limbo. They believe they own you, and this entitlement drives their behavior. It’s essential to take control and lock the door on them permanently.
Healing and Moving Forward
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