Narcissists often place the heaviest burden on the family scapegoat, forcing them to assume responsibilities they never wanted. They may guilt-trip you into becoming their medical power of attorney, crying crocodile tears to manipulate you into saying yes. “You’re the only one I trust,” they might say, knowing you’re an empath who just wants to help.
After their death, the emotional toll becomes evident. Flying monkeys and enablers criticize your decisions, adding to your stress. You’re left feeling exhausted, betrayed, and consumed by guilt for not setting boundaries earlier. However, this guilt is misplaced. You acted out of kindness and compassion. It’s important to release that guilt and remind yourself that you’re allowed to feel relief after the passing of someone so toxic.
3. Symbolic Triggers: The Lingering Presence
Narcissists leave symbolic triggers intentionally. They might store belongings in a storage unit to be delivered to you after their death, ensuring you’re constantly reminded of them. Suddenly, you’re surrounded by their possessions—their favorite cup, photographs, clothes, or office papers.
These items trigger memories, panic attacks, and nightmares. You might feel guilty about discarding them but conflicted about keeping them. This confusion keeps you stuck, as though they’re still present in your life. These symbolic triggers are another way they maintain control, even in death.
4. Funeral Drama: The Final Act
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