Do you have a narcissistic partner? Your connection may seem troublesome and toxic. If you wish to break free from the narcissist’s grasp, you might have considered using the no-contact rule. This approach allows you to breathe freely without their presence. However, if you suddenly implement this rule, your narcissistic partner will likely think you are selfish and cowardly.
While cutting ties with a narcissist is not ideal, it is often the only way to regain control of your life. But what happens when you suddenly go no contact with a narcissist? Will the narcissist resort to violence to win you back? Will they seek new prey to replace you? This article will explain why going no contact can drive narcissists insane.
1. You Are the Source of Their Narcissistic Supply
Narcissists crave adoration and attention in a relationship. They rely on your energy and emotions to feel alive. When you enforce no contact, it disrupts their ability to thrive, draining their sense of power.
2. They Feel Betrayed
Narcissists often view their partners as possessions, not out of love but as tools to boost their superiority. If you terminate the relationship, they won’t reflect on their behavior. Instead, they will blame you and feel deeply betrayed.
3. It Hurts Their Ego
Narcissists are egotistical and seek constant admiration. They stay in relationships to feed their self-importance, not out of genuine love. Leaving them unexpectedly bruises their ego, and some narcissists may even pursue their partners to continue the cycle of abuse—not out of love, but to reassert control.
4. They Feel Ashamed
One of the greatest fears for narcissists is humiliation. They often rely on their partners to uphold an image of perfection. If you leave, it exposes their vulnerabilities, making them feel ashamed and humiliated.
5. They Convince Themselves It’s Not Their Loss
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When faced with no contact, many narcissists convince themselves that they are not at fault. They comfort themselves with the idea that losing you is your mistake, not theirs, although deep down, they feel the sting of rejection.
6. They Seek Revenge
Feeling abandoned and powerless, some narcissists may go to extreme lengths to re-establish contact with you. Their intent is not reconciliation but revenge. They want to regain control and may even escalate their abusive behavior.
7. They Will Not Forget About You
Narcissists struggle to move on because they lack self-awareness. The thought of being left behind torments them, and they will hold onto their bitterness and anger.
8. Fear of Abandonment
Abandonment is one of the most painful experiences for narcissists. Many of them grew up with unresolved abandonment issues, and being left by their partners triggers their deepest fears.
9. They Feel Powerless
Narcissists thrive on control. When you go no contact, you strip them of their power, leaving them feeling helpless and infuriated.
10. You Are Their Emotional Punching Bag
In a narcissistic relationship, you often become the outlet for their frustrations and negativity. When you leave, they lose the person they depended on to absorb their toxic emotions.
11. They Lose Their Illusions
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Narcissists have unrealistic expectations of their partners. When you leave, the illusion of a perfect relationship shatters. They face the reality of having no one left to manipulate or blame, which drives them into a frenzy.
12. They Don’t Love You, But They Need You
For narcissists, love is not a genuine emotion—it’s a tool for control. When you leave, they lose their source of narcissistic supply, leaving them desperate to win you back. However, their actions are not rooted in love but in their need for dominance.
Conclusion
The purpose of the no-contact rule is not just to drive a narcissist insane but to protect and heal yourself. Loving a narcissist often results in more harm than good. By enforcing no contact, you reclaim your mental and emotional well-being. Remember, loving yourself should never come at the expense of tolerating abuse.
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