Today, we’re discussing what narcissists hope happens to you after a relationship ends. This could involve your narcissistic family members or a significant other.
In a normal relationship, if things don’t work out, you typically deal with hurt, anger, and other emotions. You grieve, process your emotions, and eventually hope for the best—for yourself and the other person. You might even hope they reflect on their actions, feel remorse, or change for the better.
However, narcissistic individuals don’t follow these patterns. They don’t feel remorse for their actions or want to change—unless it’s to become better narcissists. Most importantly, they don’t wish you well.
What Does a Narcissist Hope Happen to You After the Relationship Ends?
1. They Hope You Stay Stuck
Narcissists aim to destroy the foundation of who you are, leaving you stuck in a disempowered state. If the foundation of a building is destroyed, it crumbles—and narcissists do this to your self-image, beliefs, and confidence. Unfortunately, they often start chipping away at your self-esteem from the very beginning of the relationship.
Many clients tell me they feel like a different person after a relationship with a narcissist. They can clearly distinguish who they were before and who they became after.
If you grew up with narcissistic parents, you might not even have a “before” version of yourself. You may only sense that you were never allowed to be truly you. When the relationship ends, narcissists don’t want you to rebuild your sense of self. They want you to stay stuck in limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I’m unworthy,” which perpetuate their control over you.
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