The narcissist looks you up and down with a smirk on their face, filled with disgust, and then removes their eyes from you as if they abandon and neglect you right in that moment through their eyes.
This look is also followed by somewhat of an eye roll. It’s not a full eye roll, but they look up and down while removing eye contact and may do a small eye roll with a smirk on their face. This subtle way of shaming the person is almost like telling them, “Who are you? How dare you? Don’t you know who I am? Don’t you see me? Don’t you see my greatness? Don’t you see how above I am compared to you?” They want you to feel insignificant before them, as if they are omnipotent and you stand nowhere before them.
This shaming breaks a person, especially if it is a narcissistic parent and you are their child. There are no words used, but their eye movements act as daggers to your soul, continuously looking at you in this way and shaming you, eroding your self-esteem. You may never be able to have a working functional self-concept, self-confidence, or self-worth when the person who was supposed to build that in you just kept destroying your identity bit by bit until you hardly knew who you are and what you stand for.
This kind of shaming through their eyes causes massive brain and soul injuries, which you then have to work on to reverse the damage and rebuild your confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth to become whole again. The narcissist’s eye look conveys the message that they are way above you, unaffected by what you say or your words, and that you’re insignificant before them. They emotionally thicken themselves, but in reality, they are emotionally invisible.
Number 4: The classic eye roll.
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