This is the second step—repetition. A narcissist weaponizes repetition to bypass your critical thinking.
They repeat accusations, insults, and “jokes” until your brain accepts them as facts. Think of it as mental graffiti. Spray-paint a lie on the walls of someone’s mind enough times, and eventually, they’ll stop trying to scrub it off.
It works through:
- Labeling: Calling you names to shape your identity.
- Shaming: Saying things like, No wonder your last partner left you.
- Fear-mongering: You’ll die alone if you keep acting like this.
Each repetition drives the message deeper into your psyche until you begin policing yourself on their behalf. You start treating yourself the way they treat you.
This is why I call them evil. Their slow disintegration of your identity—the reshaping of your personality to serve their ego—is unforgivable.
Isolation: Cutting Off Your Escape Routes
The third step is isolation.
Narcissists cut you off from anyone who might contradict their narrative—friends, family, therapists. They don’t just tell you that they’re the only one who truly understands you; they convince you.
First, they convince you that you’re flawed.
Then, they convince you that they’re the only one willing to tolerate you.
Without external reality checks, their voice becomes your only compass. Even after they’re gone, it lingers. Your inner world becomes an echo chamber.
You stop asking, Is this true? and start asking, How do I survive this?
Eventually, you find yourself seeking their approval, even when you know they’re a monster.
Manifestations of the Narcissist’s Voice
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