You don’t need to say those things out loud, but that is the posture you want to embody when that is the message you want to send to an individual who thinks it’s a good idea to target us. Believe me when I tell you that your perfectly placed silence is going to make them far more uncomfortable than you can even imagine.
Now, in addition, and where appropriate—this isn’t always going to be appropriate for sure or work for you necessarily—but where appropriate, you can say something like:
- “Okay”
- “Cool”
- “I’m okay with that”
- “Fine with me”
- Or one of my personal favorites: “I don’t care” and silence—not another word.
Again, let it land, and if you’re feeling brave, you can also say something like, “Yeah, that’s not going to happen” and silence. Or “That’s not going to work for me” and again, not another word.
Watch the narcissist become completely unraveled when they realize they are fully and entirely powerless over you. This is how you ensure that the narcissist never even thinks of messing with you again. Why? Well, because it’s clear you are no fun to play with. You start communicating like this, embodying that detached, flatline, couldn’t-give-a-flying-bleep kind of energy, and communicating in this fashion, letting the silence be what it is. Pretty soon, they’ll have to go find someone else to play with, and you’ll be left alone and in peace, able to get on with your happy, healthy, and productive life—able to start moving in the direction of a much better life without all the pain, drama, and trauma that the narcissist brings to the table.
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