what happens when a narcissist sees you as being too strong? When they see that you carry a little more personal power than they’d prefer? Well, a few things can happen, depending on the type of narcissist you’re dealing with.
For example, a fragile, vulnerable, more covert narcissist will initially be attracted to your strength, confidence, courage, and personal power. But inevitably, they’ll be triggered and feel threatened by it. The moment your strong nature begins to shine a light on their own inadequacies, shortcomings, lack of personal integrity, or moral compass, your personal power, strength, and resolve will become a problem. In their mind, you’ll become their adversary. Suddenly, you’ll be the villain, and they, of course, will be the victim.
This is always par for the course when dealing with a covert narcissist; they are forever the victim in every situation, even in circumstances they themselves have not only created but also perpetuated. Know anyone like this? This is a big clue that you’re dealing with a covert narcissist.
Similarly, a more overt, grandiose narcissist will initially find your strength and personal power very attractive. In fact, they’ll find the challenge your strong character offers to be compelling and irresistible. Again, initially, until things don’t go their way.
Once it becomes clear that you aren’t easily swayed, manipulated, dominated, duped, deceived, or controlled, then your strength and personal power will become a big problem for them. This will frustrate them to no end and justify any retaliatory behavior on their part.
What many people don’t realize is that narcissists don’t tend to go after riff-raff. If you’re being targeted by a destructive narcissist in any way, it’s likely because you bring a lot of good stuff to the table; you carry a lot of light. You’re not only highly empathic but also deeply loving, kind, decent, and good—not perfect, but good. You have a lot going for you.
In essence, you’re the exact opposite of what the narcissist is. Furthermore, you’re probably really smart and at least relatively accomplished. You make them look good because you look good. You enhance their image by osmosis, and they like that—at first.
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