This can be happening long before you even realize there’s a problem. They’re fake, they’re phony, and they’re liars. They tell lies by omission and outright lies with tremendous ease and zero guilt, shame, or remorse. They have no problem showing up and playacting, pretending that all is well while they smear you to smithereens the moment your back is turned.
It doesn’t matter the relationship dynamic; narcissistic parents do this to the children they can’t manipulate, dominate, or control. Narcissistic in-laws jump at the chance to do this as quickly as possible if anyone in the family sees the newcomer or outsider in a favorable light. Narcissistic siblings, relatives, friends, bosses, ex-lovers, and spouses do this all the time, mainly to cover up their own horrific relationship crimes.
The bottom line is that narcissists need to be in a position of perceived superiority, dominance, and control. Although attractive and compelling in the early stages of the relationship dynamic, your strength and personal power will be very problematic for anyone who lands on the spectrum of destructive narcissism. It’s just a question of time.
Why? Because you’ll be too difficult or too hard to handle, which is the same as saying you’re not easy to manipulate, dominate, dupe, deceive, or control.
People who are viewed as being too strong by the narcissist are indeed individuals who are not easily swayed by the opinions of others. They’re confident, boundaried, self-reliant, and clear individuals who are personally developed enough to live sovereign lives, independent of the nonsense the narcissist tends to bring to the table. They think for themselves, act for themselves, feel for themselves, trust themselves, and therefore rely on their own good judgment while being grounded in their own good opinion of themselves as opposed to seeking approval and validation from outside themselves.
Needless to say, this is not exactly what the narcissist is looking for in someone to play their sick little games with.
Now, comment below and let me know whether you’ve had the experience of triggering a narcissist in this fashion. If you’re struggling with narcissistic abuse in any area of your life, you’re likely an excellent candidate for my eight-week transformational coaching program, The Freedom Class. If that interests you, there’s a link in the description below where you can apply to see if you qualify for a free one-on-one consultation with either myself or a member of my team.
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