Number five: “You’re so insecure.” Translation: I’m deliberately making you feel insecure, and now I’m blaming you for it. A narcissist’s favorite game is manufacturing insecurity in their target. They do this by flirting with others in front of you to elicit jealousy or by praising someone else excessively to make you feel inferior. They’ll also point out fake flaws in you to lower your self-esteem. Nice people know their worth. Truly know your value and worth to your core. Do the work to get there and never let anyone erode your self-confidence. Don’t fall for that trap when they try to bait you. Refuse to react; see it for what it is and do what you need to take care of yourself. Distance yourself from toxic and hurtful people; that’s usually your best bet.
Number six: “You have trust issues.” Translation: I’m lying to you, and I need to make you feel like the problem so I can get away with whatever it is I’m trying to get away with. If someone is constantly lying to you, betraying you, or acting shady in any way, and then accuses you of having trust issues when you call it out, it’s time for a reality check. Your gut instinct is accurate; if something feels off, it probably is. Trust is earned, not automatically assumed, and certainly not demanded through manipulation and emotional bullying. A healthy person won’t blame you for wanting clarity, and people who have nothing to hide hide nothing. Refuse to accept gaslighting in any of your relationships. Stand by what you know to be true and respect yourself; if you don’t, nobody else will.
Number seven: “Who would believe you?” Translation: I’ve isolated and smeared you enough to make you feel powerless. This is nothing short of psychological warfare. Narcissists use isolation, character assassination, and intimidation to keep you quiet and controlled. So what do you do? Document everything, lean on safe, supportive people who get it, and never let fear keep you in a toxic abuse cycle. Find a way to reclaim your power and get the hell out of there.
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