Number eight: “No one will want you.” Translation: I need you to believe you’re unworthy so you never leave me. Now hear me: this is a flat-out lie designed to keep you stuck in the toxic abuse cycle for as long as you’re willing to stay. What you may not realize is that narcissists target powerful, light-filled, highly empathic, accomplished, and talented people—those who bring a lot of good stuff to the table. The very fact that they chose you to begin with is proof of all the good you carry and bring to the relationship. Even if you can’t see that right now, what they don’t want you to know is how much good you have within you and that you are worthy of love, respect, consideration, compassion, peace, joy, and freedom. When you step into your power, their control disappears, and they don’t want that. So they lie to you about who you are and what you’re worth. Don’t believe them, please!
And last but not least, number nine: “You’d be nothing if it weren’t for me.” Narcissists will happily take credit for your accomplishments and all the hard work you’ve put into doing, creating, building, or even becoming something that they themselves have not. They may contribute in some way—usually a very small way, if at all—to helping you get where you are. Regardless, they’ll think that if it weren’t for them, you’d be nothing—a total lost cause. Can you imagine what kind of empathy-impaired, entitled, arrogant, and self-absorbed emotional manipulator you’d have to be to say such words to another human being, especially one you supposedly love? They sure are something, aren’t they?
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