Narcissistic individuals care very little about how others feel about them as a result of their actions or words. At this point, all they require is something to work with in order to move on. They are willing to make do with anything they can get their hands on, whether it is love, adoration, pity, or even hatred. Because of the mental and emotional investment you have made in them, they become significant to you and play a role in the trajectory of your life.
If they’re successful in making you feel sorry for them, they will continue to use this tactic and likely sprinkle some flattery and charm on top of it for good measure. Therefore, the narcissist’s last-ditch effort to gain control over us and make us comply with their will is to appeal to our pity.
In order to avoid going to work, they may dishonestly declare that they are ill or suffering from a disease. They might even deliberately hurt themselves to attract your attention to their shenanigans. It is not uncommon for them to become combative and insist that you are the only person who can assist them in any way.
Narcissists are excellent actors and actresses because they believe this is the only way for them to reach the level of control they need. When confronted with the reality that you are more powerful, they will come across as feeble, looking weak and submissive in an effort to win your trust and gain your confidence.
Narcissists want to maintain control over their victims so they can bring about the victim’s destruction. Because of this, it is possible for them to turn around and force you into a ditch, despite the fact that you helped them out of it in the first place. The goal of a person with a narcissistic personality disorder is to exert absolute dominance and control over others at all times, regardless of the circumstances or the consequences.
In order to get you to fall for their scheme, they will act as though they are either hopelessly in love with you or a helpless victim. They receive a skewed perception of their own self-worth and an inflated sense of superiority as a result of the massive boost to their self-esteem that comes from bringing another powerful person to their knees.
After extracting as much useful information as they can from you, they will do it with great zeal and then cast you aside once they have finished using you. Even if they are unsuccessful in getting what they want by flattering others, being charming, or playing the role of the victim, the narcissist will not give up.
If they are unable to exercise influence over you and bring you to your knees indirectly, then they have just one option left open to them. The narcissist has a more limited toolbox to work with in this scenario because they didn’t spend enough time getting to know you to discover any hidden flaws or secrets you might have.
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