If the narcissist truly cares about you, they will do everything it takes to get back together with you. This means picking up where you left off. They know just what to say and do to get a response from you. This tactic is the foundation of the arsenal used by all narcissists, no matter their specific flavor, in the hopes that their significant other will put the past behind them and look forward to the future. They may come bearing gifts.
The common strategy is to make you feel special by pretending that no one else matters to them as much as you do. It is a hallmark of narcissists that they are able to focus the attention of others on themselves. The narcissist doesn’t appreciate your uniqueness since they can’t see beyond their own needs, but they know how to sway you. In spite of your best efforts to cut ties with them, some narcissists may try to re-enter your life. A narcissist will come back again like a boomerang; they’ll keep reaching out like a snake until they find a way back into your life. This may be the case if they rely heavily on you as a source of supply or if they have other motives for trying to damage you. These are the two main reasons why a narcissist might want a committed relationship again.
Hoovering can be a lengthy process for narcissists since they are easily distracted by what they consider to be more fruitful avenues. However, if an outstanding candidate is not available or if there is a dearth of competent candidates, they will have no choice but to go back to their previous partner. In short, they’ll be back when it’s convenient for them. They’ll use the same strategies they used before to get back into your life and harass you further. After all, Satan won’t appear brandishing a pitchfork and horns; no, they’ll show up at your door posing as a guardian angel.
Narcissists know that if they put in the time and effort to create intimate relationships with their potential victims, they will be better prepared for future hoovers. The narcissist’s goal is to gain their trust so they may treat them like mindless servants. Long after you’ve abandoned the narcissist, their flying monkeys will continue to spread rumors about you and keep the narcissist in the loop about your movements. You should be ready to execute a no-contact policy with any friends or family members who are unwittingly working as flying monkeys for the narcissist.
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Once you’ve identified a narcissist in your life, I’ve learned to treat everyone like a flying monkey, whether they’re my sister, my parents, or my friends. If my friends keep spending time with the narcissist, I may as well bid them farewell. The narcissist can use these tactics to keep tabs on you and predict when they will be most effective in contacting you, whether to violate no-contact or catch you off guard.
In the event of a loss, such as a death in the family, a breakup, or a promotion, the narcissist’s next move is to claim they’re the victim. Narcissists will try to convince you that they can’t survive without you. They may even threaten to hurt themselves or even commit suicide if you leave them or refuse to accept them back. They’re being overly manipulative here; they will make a spectacle of their desperation and helplessness to emphasize how dependent they are on you. An onslaught of apologies, pledges to change, and crocodile tears may be forthcoming if their initial attempt doesn’t work. Narcissists have no trouble shedding tears when it’s time for them to do so.
They hope that by appealing to our emotions, they might sway our decision. But you’ll just have to take my word for it: male or female, narcissists may suddenly burst into tears for no apparent reason. The tears are fake. To re-enter our lives, narcissists will say or do things designed to make us second-guess our decision to cut ties. Narcissists will say or do anything to make others feel horrible about themselves. Usually, they get what they want by appealing to our higher morals, so expect them to try to persuade you with a mix of charisma, sob stories, a winning smile, and possibly even tears.
They will resort to any means necessary to win your affection, pity, assistance, and allegiance. The narcissist is heartless and can’t feel our pain; they are simply interested in using us for their own gain. They rely on us to satisfy their narcissistic needs and boost their confidence. It’s crucial to keep your composure when confronting a narcissist who tries to re-enter your life. Don’t give in to their niceties or their phony attempts to help you. Instead, fight back.
Because of this, we may safely assume that the narcissist’s apparent kindness is insincere and that their actions are driven by ulterior motives to plunder your wealth or eliminate you altogether. They also have no qualms about using goodwill as bargaining leverage. They put on a convincing performance of sorrow and remorse.
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Narcissists are the type to wait patiently for you to reopen the door so they may come back in. Narcissists may take weeks, months, or even years to get you where they want you to be, but as soon as they do, they will instantly resume their destructive activities or begin their plans to ruin you. Narcissists don’t just make innocuous gaps that can be easily rectified with an explanation or apology, expecting that the offending behavior will not be repeated. In reality, narcissists can’t help but damage others whenever they get the chance. Moreover, if you leave the door unlocked, they will keep trying to get back inside.
Aiming to get rid of the narcissist and the annoying flying monkeys who are willing to offer you to the narcissist should be a top priority. If you take away one of the narcissist’s flying monkeys, they might take the other away too because they have no use for it. The narcissist will care about you only as long as you continue to meet their needs. Narcissists may turn to flying monkey tactics if they believe they can win you back with pity or excessive politeness. Always be on guard for the narcissist’s favorite control restoration method and any potential henchmen it entails.
Next time will come; be on the lookout for any indications that the narcissist may be making a return, and don’t hesitate to discuss any tactics you think they may have used to re-enter your life. I guess that’s all I can think of at the moment. I hope, as usual, that the information provided is useful to you. Post your thoughts, questions, and concerns about this in the comment section below. We can’t wait to read them! Please subscribe and activate the bell icon so you don’t miss any of our future releases. Thank you for taking the time to watch this.
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