Today, we’re going to talk about how to make a narcissist addicted to you or make them crave you. There are a few things that can actually help with this, although I want to emphasize that it’s not something I would recommend. What you’re doing is engaging in mind games with someone who has toxic traits and a personality disorder. I completely understand wanting to regain control in this dynamic, but please be careful.
Now, if you want to make a narcissist addicted to you, the first thing I recommend is to have your wits about you. You need to be aware at all times because what you’re doing is trying to make someone with toxic traits addicted to you. So, just be cautious and make sure you’re in control. You have to be a little detached.
The first tactic I would suggest is to play hot and cold. Yes, my friends, you need to play hot and cold! This approach works because it creates a bond—similar to how the narcissist plays hot and cold with you. This keeps the other person eager and hooked, as they’re always waiting for when you’ll be warm and give them what they need. This method taps into the reward and punishment receptors in our brains, a psychological phenomenon akin to Pavlov’s dogs. Essentially, you’re conditioning this person to think of you in a certain way. When you’re cold, they feel uncomfortable, which makes them miss you and crave your attention.
Next, you need to be a little more confident. This means being a bit withdrawn and not waiting for someone to validate you. You should already know your worth, so you don’t need external validation. If you’re waiting for someone else to make you feel good, you’ll always be disappointed and vulnerable. You must work on your self-confidence and self-worth. When you embody this belief, the narcissist will see you as someone special, something to be valued.
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Additionally, you have to let the narcissist either chase you or rescue you. This creates a sense of need and importance in their mind. When you allow them to pursue you, it shows that they must work for your attention, making you seem scarce and valuable. They need to believe that you are rare and that they have to put in effort to win you over.
Lastly, you need to be emotionally withdrawn. When they give you compliments or are kind, it feels good, but you have to remain detached. If you accept their compliments too readily, they will know where your vulnerabilities are and will manipulate you. You must have barriers in place and not rely on their validation.
Remember, everything starts with you. You need to believe in yourself and project that self-sufficiency outwardly. This will show the narcissist that whether they are in your life or not, it doesn’t matter because you have your life together. You are strong, confident, and self-sufficient.
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