Additionally, you have to let the narcissist either chase you or rescue you. This creates a sense of need and importance in their mind. When you allow them to pursue you, it shows that they must work for your attention, making you seem scarce and valuable. They need to believe that you are rare and that they have to put in effort to win you over.
Lastly, you need to be emotionally withdrawn. When they give you compliments or are kind, it feels good, but you have to remain detached. If you accept their compliments too readily, they will know where your vulnerabilities are and will manipulate you. You must have barriers in place and not rely on their validation.
Remember, everything starts with you. You need to believe in yourself and project that self-sufficiency outwardly. This will show the narcissist that whether they are in your life or not, it doesn’t matter because you have your life together. You are strong, confident, and self-sufficient.
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