Why Engaging With a Narcissist Is a Losing Battle
Let’s say you’re dealing with a narcissist who believes they know everything. They spout wild opinions, insist on calling the shots, and refuse to listen—even when you know they’re wrong. The moment you try to correct them, they twist the situation, making it seem like you are the one with the wrong opinion. Exhausting, right?
Or maybe you’re dealing with a narcissist who spreads false accusations about you, twisting the truth to make you look bad. This can leave you feeling emotionally drained and frustrated. The reality is that narcissists are unreasonable. Their actions aren’t based on logic but on emotional immaturity and irrational thinking. If you react emotionally, you’re stepping into their trap and playing by their rules. So, what should you do instead?
The “Mind Over Emotion” Tactic
To regain control, you need to practice mind over emotion—a strategy that helps you remain calm, logical, and detached from their manipulations.
Trying to convince a narcissist of your point of view is almost always a waste of time. They’re not known for changing their ways or considering other perspectives. They love arguing, belittling, and refusing to cooperate.
Think about it—when’s the last time a narcissist said, “Good point, I see your perspective”? Probably never. Even asking them thought-provoking questions won’t get you anywhere.
If you let emotions take over, the conversation will likely spiral out of control, leaving you drained while the narcissist feels validated. Worse, they may use your reaction to play the victim while painting you as the villain.
How to Stay Unaffected by a Narcissist
When a narcissist starts using manipulative tactics, step back, keep your emotions in check, and approach the situation with a clear head. Here’s how:
1. Embrace “Delicate Detachment”
Think of this as a calm and logical approach that keeps you from getting emotionally caught up. Instead of reacting, remind yourself:
- Stay cool. Don’t let their words get to you.
- It’s not worth my energy.
- Reacting emotionally only gives them power.
- I won’t argue over every little thing.
- I refuse to sink to their level.
By doing this, you’ll become less reactive to their tactics, making it easier to give dull, disinterested responses—exactly not what they want.
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