Now, what is about you is the degree to which what they have to say lands and the degree to which you are willing to stand still in a relationship—any relationship—where someone feels entitled to target and hurt you in this way. That is your stuff. So ask yourself: if this never changes, what do you need to do to be happy and at peace? And then do that. You deserve healthy relationships, and healthy relationships do not include insults.
As I said earlier, being on the receiving end of insults like this will absolutely erode your self-esteem over time. Exposure to people who feel entitled to target you will have an effect, and not a good one. So start by learning how to set healthy limits and boundaries.
One way or another, you are going to have to figure out a way to get the message across: insulting me is not okay, and it’s not going to fly. Decide today that you are worthy and deserving of healthy relationships. Do your personal healing and recovery work so you can actually become a match for much better in your life, and then go out and create better for yourself—without the petty jabs, constant criticism, invalidation, and projection that your narcissistic family members feel entitled to hit you with. Do what you need to do to take care of you. Again, you deserve at least that and so much more.
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