Revenge against a narcissist doesn’t have to be loud or dramatic; in fact, the most powerful revenge is often silent. Today, we’re going to cover all the ways in which you can reset the scales of justice with a narcissist without so much as saying a word.
So, let’s get started with the first way you can get revenge against a narcissist, and they won’t see it coming: by taking away their supply. It sounds easy enough, but if you’ve ever tried it, you know it’s not as simple in practice. Here’s the cold, hard truth you need to know before we dig into the details: when you are easily triggered, you are easily manipulated.
To start, think of your emotional triggers as buttons. Every time you react strongly to something a narcissist says or does, you’re letting them know exactly which buttons to push. It’s like handing them a manual on how to control you. So, if you disconnect those buttons, the narcissist will have no idea how to control you. It’s almost as if you’re erasing their instruction manual. They may still have an outdated version, but what can they do when it no longer works? The good news is that the narcissist doesn’t know either.
I want to be clear: taming your triggers doesn’t mean becoming emotionless. It means taking control of your reactions. Now, if your strategy involves gray rock, that does mean becoming more emotionless, and while that strategy is effective for many, it does not work for everyone. When we’re talking about taming your triggers, we want to be able to do this around everyone, not just the narcissist you can easily, or not so easily, cut out of your life. Although they may be the main issue right now, if we address what’s beneath it and what is actually triggering to you, we can neutralize those triggers. Then, you become almost bulletproof to any narcissist or manipulative person in the future.
When you are no longer easily triggered, you are no longer easily manipulated. I know what you’re thinking: “It’s easier said than done, Christina,” and I totally get that. But we can make it easier by breaking it down. You don’t need to become a robot or stop yourself from feeling angry or irritated by the narcissist’s nonsense. All you really have to do is take a pause. That seems much more manageable, right?
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