Number Two: “No One Will Believe You.”
This one is the most dangerous. When they say “No one will believe you,” it’s because they have already done their work by playing the game of being the monster at home and a saint in public. They have already set the stage. They have already made you look crazy through reactive abuse, pushing your buttons silently yet strategically until you explode. They have trained the outside world to believe they are the victim. So when you finally try to speak up—which you will—you will look like the unstable one. And that’s exactly what they want. They don’t just abuse you; they discredit you before you even open your mouth. They want people to see you as dramatic, emotional, and irrational, so your truth gets buried under their performance.
While they make you feel like you are losing your mind at home, they are outside charming your friends, playing the role of a good partner or parent, planting subtle doubts about your mental health, pretending to be confused and concerned about your behavior. They say things like, “I don’t know what’s going on with them lately. I’m so concerned; I just want them to get the help they need.” And those comments sound so innocent, but they are meant to destroy your credibility. So when you finally reach your breaking point and tell them that this wolf has been feeding off of you, it doesn’t land. People look at you sideways. They hesitate; they question you. Or worse, they defend the narcissist because the narcissist seemed so nice when gaslighting, so put together, so caring. That is why this phrase is so evil. It’s not just an attack on your voice; it is an attack on your reality.
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